Embracing the “Ber” Months: Holiday Stress Support for Moms

Navigating the Busy Season

The moment the “ber” months roll in, life seems to speed up. Suddenly, our lists get longer, our calendars fill faster, and our to-dos multiply overnight. Don't get me wrong; I get giddy with excitement for all the fun to come. But it can feel like a lot. By October, the weight really starts to pile on—at least for me. There are birthday parties to plan, Halloween costumes to pull together, school photos and permission slips to remember, online orders that never seem to end, family events to coordinate, and the first hints of holiday planning creeping in. All of this stacks up while we’re still trying to get enough sleep and carve out even a little space to take care of ourselves.

I actually enjoy being busy. There’s something satisfying about crossing things off the list, feeling productive, and staying on top of everything. But even if I find myself in that rhythm more often than not, I’ve had to learn that it’s okay to pause and slow down, too. Busy doesn’t have to mean burned out. It’s perfectly fine to loosen routines, let some things wait, and give myself permission to rest when I need it.

The Importance of Rest

That balance—between productivity and pause—is what helps me make it through the “ber” months. I’ve been resting more, reminding myself that sleep is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. I’ve shifted some routines, like working out in the afternoons instead of forcing myself up at 5:30 AM. I much prefer to get my workout done before my day even begins, but right now, I'm changing it up. And it has been working well for me.

I’m also loving my time to relax after a busy day at work with a cup of coffee and a book while the girls do their homework. The dishes can wait, and so can the Amazon shopping list. Everything will get done. It always does. And come January, the pace slows, the calendar clears, and there’s space to breathe again. That reminder keeps me grounded: this season is full of fun and chaos that I do love, but it’s just a season, and it will pass.

Finding Your Balance

If you're feeling like I am this time of year, with looming tasks or anticipation of what's to come, ask yourself:

• What can you let go of right now—even just temporarily—that frees up space and energy? Putting down the phone more often really keeps your head clear and focused on what is important around you. It is too easy to get distracted and influenced by what everyone else is doing, buying, planning, or crafting. You have enough on your plate. Don't add more.

  
  

• Where can you trade perfection for presence? Maybe the Halloween cookies aren’t homemade this year, or you trade that spooky hayride for some self-care or quality time with your family at home. That’s okay. You are your own biggest critic; no one else really cares how you spend your time.

  
  

• What mindful moments can you find in the chaos? Can you spend a few minutes outside, appreciating the changing seasons, smelling the fresh air, and grounding yourself in the present?

  
  

• How can you build in rest on purpose, instead of waiting for exhaustion to force it? What would that look like for you? The pressure to juggle birthdays, holidays, school events, and family expectations while keeping yourself together is real. But so is your need for space. Sometimes, the bravest, healthiest thing you can do is relax. Step back. Breathe. Offer yourself the same compassion you so freely give to everyone else.

  
  

A Gentle Reminder

So if you’re caught between trying to do it all and wishing you could do nothing at all, know you’re not alone. The load is heavy—but you’re allowed to set some of it down. And when the overwhelm creeps back in, remind yourself of this simple truth:

Everything will get done. It always does.

Embracing the Journey

As we navigate through this busy season, it’s essential to embrace the journey. Life is a series of moments, and each one is valuable. Take a moment to reflect on what truly matters to you. Is it the perfect Halloween costume, or is it the laughter shared with loved ones?

Creating Meaningful Connections

In the midst of the chaos, let’s not forget the importance of connection. Reach out to friends or family. Share your experiences, your struggles, and your victories. Sometimes, just knowing that someone else understands can lighten the load.

Prioritizing Self-Care

Self-care is not selfish; it’s necessary. Make it a priority. Whether it’s a quiet moment with a book, a warm bath, or a walk in nature, find what nourishes your soul. You deserve it.

Looking Ahead

As we look ahead, remember that the “ber” months are just a chapter in your story. They will pass, and with them, the opportunities for growth and reflection. Embrace each moment, and don’t forget to breathe.

Carly Murillo, LCSW

Resilient Bloom Therapy